Comments on: Made For Birthing http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:27:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Isabel http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/#comment-261 Isabel Sat, 30 Sep 2006 03:22:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=79#comment-261 LOL! That was a pricelessly blithering diatribe. Ah, Anon's posting was a scream. I'll avoid the obvious remarks about "this is clearly someone who hasn't read much here", both because it's too obvious and it's not useful to engage; Elemental Mom is one of the kindest and most utterly decent people I've ever met (I know her well) so I'd like to remind her, in the unlikely event she takes this seriously, that you can be as clear as you like, but you just can't help everyone. LOL! That was a pricelessly blithering diatribe. Ah, Anon’s posting was a scream. I’ll avoid the obvious remarks about “this is clearly someone who hasn’t read much here”, both because it’s too obvious and it’s not useful to engage; Elemental Mom is one of the kindest and most utterly decent people I’ve ever met (I know her well) so I’d like to remind her, in the unlikely event she takes this seriously, that you can be as clear as you like, but you just can’t help everyone.

]]> By: ElementalMom http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/#comment-260 ElementalMom Sat, 30 Sep 2006 02:34:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=79#comment-260 ...and you are still anonymous. Uncloak, willya, cause you're clearly not getting the point. …and you are still anonymous. Uncloak, willya, cause you’re clearly not getting the point.

]]> By: Anonymous http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/#comment-259 Anonymous Fri, 29 Sep 2006 23:00:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=79#comment-259 This is life. We all have things that come easily and things that present us with a struggle. You think you're a better person because your kids behave at IKEA. That other parents aren't as smart or as effective as you are when in reality there are so many other variables that effect a child at any given moment. With a world view like this, naturally you have to look down on yourself and beat yourself up over a c-section. Do you see the parallel logic? If you'd have had an easy vaginal birth you would, naturally, attribute it to your superiority as a human, woman, mother. The other mothers with harder births? They wouldn't be as highly-evolved, in-tune, womanly as you. You judge others harshly, therefore you have to torture yourself with your own judgement. Let it go. Release and be at peace. This is life. We all have things that come easily and things that present us with a struggle. You think you’re a better person because your kids behave at IKEA. That other parents aren’t as smart or as effective as you are when in reality there are so many other variables that effect a child at any given moment. With a world view like this, naturally you have to look down on yourself and beat yourself up over a c-section. Do you see the parallel logic? If you’d have had an easy vaginal birth you would, naturally, attribute it to your superiority as a human, woman, mother. The other mothers with harder births? They wouldn’t be as highly-evolved, in-tune, womanly as you. You judge others harshly, therefore you have to torture yourself with your own judgement. Let it go. Release and be at peace.

]]> By: The DIY Mother http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/#comment-258 The DIY Mother Thu, 28 Sep 2006 18:21:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=79#comment-258 From the bottom...no, the *top* of my overflowing heart, THANK YOU for explaining the vicious birth envy/failure/PPD cycle better than I have been able to thus far. To be here now, on the other side of all that pain, reveling in our glory together, makes me feel closer to to you than my own sister-- that bitch! A 12-hour unmedicated birth! (if you don't count the Cytotec induction for low AFI- LOL) Anyway, in my mind, the V truly stands for victorious now, and I have the victory garden made using the black wrought-iron frame from the bed Seamus was born on to prove it! "We did that? Why yes, we did!" All The Love, Jessa From the bottom…no, the *top* of my overflowing heart, THANK YOU for explaining the vicious birth envy/failure/PPD cycle better than I have been able to thus far. To be here now, on the other side of all that pain, reveling in our glory together, makes me feel closer to to you than my own sister– that bitch! A 12-hour unmedicated birth! (if you don’t count the Cytotec induction for low AFI- LOL) Anyway, in my mind, the V truly stands for victorious now, and I have the victory garden made using the black wrought-iron frame from the bed Seamus was born on to prove it! “We did that? Why yes, we did!” All The Love, Jessa

]]> By: Mom2 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/#comment-257 Mom2 Thu, 28 Sep 2006 17:58:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=79#comment-257 when they say you are made for birthing, it means you have wide hips for easy passage.(I mean wide on the inside) at least that what it used to mean. as skinny as I am my hips were made for birthing. 8 hours Jason-drugged- Marc 6 hours natural. and for my Ria 12 hours natural, but she was just being stubborn, which she still is :) and none of them were real hard labor. when they say you are made for birthing, it means you have wide hips for easy passage.(I mean wide on the inside) at least that what it used to mean. as skinny as I am my hips were made for birthing. 8 hours Jason-drugged- Marc 6 hours natural. and for my Ria 12 hours natural, but she was just being stubborn, which she still is :) and none of them were real hard labor.

]]> By: Deb http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/#comment-256 Deb Wed, 27 Sep 2006 22:23:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=79#comment-256 Made me cry, Laureen....I too have that horrible envy, even after 4 tries.... My sis in law accidently had her son on the bathroom floor b/c she just felt a little like having diarrhea....I was home recovering from my second cesarean after trying everythign to have my baby at home....couldnt' talk to her for a very long time. Made me cry, Laureen….I too have that horrible envy, even after 4 tries….
My sis in law accidently had her son on the bathroom floor b/c she just felt a little like having diarrhea….I was home recovering from my second cesarean after trying everythign to have my baby at home….couldnt’ talk to her for a very long time.

]]> By: Amanda http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/09/26/made-for-birthing/#comment-255 Amanda Wed, 27 Sep 2006 21:08:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=79#comment-255 Hi there. It bothers me, too, when I hear the comment: "She was made for giving birth." Even though often they're referring to me. It bothers me because ALL women's bodies were made for giving birth. (Not that I think all women should have children!) My first labor was very long and ended up with forceps delivery. But there wasn't anything wrong with my body. As usual, the people involved just got impatient. Enjoyed your post. :) Hi there. It bothers me, too, when I hear the comment: “She was made for giving birth.” Even though often they’re referring to me. It bothers me because ALL women’s bodies were made for giving birth. (Not that I think all women should have children!) My first labor was very long and ended up with forceps delivery. But there wasn’t anything wrong with my body. As usual, the people involved just got impatient.

Enjoyed your post. :)

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