My beloved is in lots of pain, and very stressed, and getting grumpy with us all, and yup, snarling at the kids, one of my most ferocious triggers. This morning I suggested that perhaps she needed some space from us all, to ease the pressure a bit. Well, she nearly fell apart, crying and screaming like the best toddler can do.

Then she went out for her daily rehab at the pool. While she was gone I read your blog, reminded myself of what I often say to her. When the kids are behaving the worst is when they need your love and understanding the most. I read your blog again, and thought some more. When she returned home, I sidled up to her, and asked if I could give her a hug, and while I held her I asked her to be in it too, she melted in, she cried, she told me how hard it all is, AND she told me how lonely it all is, and how scary the prospect of going somewhere else and being on her own would be. You are so right, CLOSER is where she needs to be, and where I’ll endeavour to hold her. Much Love, Lizzie

I pity the poor girl (years and years and years from now!) that ends up with him!