Comments on: Splashing Genetic Expression of Self http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/06/30/splashing-genetic-expression-of-self/ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 01:34:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Anonymous http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/06/30/splashing-genetic-expression-of-self/#comment-209 Anonymous Fri, 14 Jul 2006 03:53:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=67#comment-209 Glad that you and Rowan found your best approach to water. For similar but different reasons, I will not let my DD continue swimming lessons with her preschool after this first 3-week session is over. Even though she LOVES the water any other time - jumping in fearlessly and swimming without floaties, not wanting to come out for a LONG time - she refused to go in the water during the ENTIRE first week of lessons. Big fuss, whining "I'm shyyy" for effect, and drinking murky pool water from her scooped hands instead. No deeper reason to be found, just major emotional upheaval for her AND me: I found myself turning into one of those competitive moms from hell who took her refusal as a personal failure and tried to coax her back in... Second week we were out of town (there go our fees), and now third week she suddenly made it in and is participating with gusto, after just dangling her legs in for the first 10 miuntes on Monday. I could bet that she only did that after noticing that I decided not to react to her refusal anymore. But I admit I did cheer her on when she finally went in and screamed "Look at me, Mom, look at me!" ;-) But from now on I'll be teaching her without those short lessons. We'll find our style, and she'll learn to swim. Now all we need is a nice pool with good hours, and a babysitter for DS... FR Glad that you and Rowan found your best approach to water.
For similar but different reasons, I will not let my DD continue swimming lessons with her preschool after this first 3-week session is over.
Even though she LOVES the water any other time - jumping in fearlessly and swimming without floaties, not wanting to come out for a LONG time - she refused to go in the water during the ENTIRE first week of lessons. Big fuss, whining “I’m shyyy” for effect, and drinking murky pool water from her scooped hands instead. No deeper reason to be found, just major emotional upheaval for her AND me: I found myself turning into one of those competitive moms from hell who took her refusal as a personal failure and tried to coax her back in…
Second week we were out of town (there go our fees), and now third week she suddenly made it in and is participating with gusto, after just dangling her legs in for the first 10 miuntes on Monday. I could bet that she only did that after noticing that I decided not to react to her refusal anymore. But I admit I did cheer her on when she finally went in and screamed “Look at me, Mom, look at me!” ;-) But from now on I’ll be teaching her without those short lessons. We’ll find our style, and she’ll learn to swim. Now all we need is a nice pool with good hours, and a babysitter for DS…
FR

]]> By: Dana http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/06/30/splashing-genetic-expression-of-self/#comment-208 Dana Sat, 08 Jul 2006 03:54:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=67#comment-208 Swimming lessons goes over well with only a few kids. One of my loved lessons, the other two had to learn to swim on their own. Lessons terrified them. I can't say I blame them. It can be frightening to have a stranger come drag you around through water you feel can't support you. I totally agree with your decision to just let Rowan play and do it his way. Swimming lessons goes over well with only a few kids. One of my loved lessons, the other two had to learn to swim on their own. Lessons terrified them.

I can’t say I blame them. It can be frightening to have a stranger come drag you around through water you feel can’t support you.

I totally agree with your decision to just let Rowan play and do it his way.

]]> By: Moira http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/06/30/splashing-genetic-expression-of-self/#comment-207 Moira Thu, 06 Jul 2006 18:33:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=67#comment-207 You did the right thing... think about how your kids will be when they are teenagers and how the other children will most likly be. You did the right thing… think about how your kids will be when they are teenagers and how the other children will most likly be.

]]> By: September http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/06/30/splashing-genetic-expression-of-self/#comment-206 September Mon, 03 Jul 2006 21:49:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=67#comment-206 Awesome job. They will learn to swim, just not in your time, in theirs. Awesome job. They will learn to swim, just not in your time, in theirs.

]]> By: Deb http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/06/30/splashing-genetic-expression-of-self/#comment-205 Deb Sun, 02 Jul 2006 21:27:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=67#comment-205 Hurray for you but more for your boys! It was a huge moment of trust between you in my view. I agree and made the same parenting vow....it can be a hard one to keep. Hurray for you but more for your boys! It was a huge moment of trust between you in my view. I agree and made the same parenting vow….it can be a hard one to keep.

]]> By: v http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/2006/06/30/splashing-genetic-expression-of-self/#comment-204 v Sat, 01 Jul 2006 03:49:00 +0000 http://theexcellentadventure.com/elementalmom/?p=67#comment-204 Absolutely perfect day. love, v Absolutely perfect day. love, v

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